Here are some stories from Robert Penn Warren. Truly, i dont know this man ezactly, but one thing i know, what he told here, just would make u imagine the pure feeling that known as Love.. Read it and find something, that love, not only talk about passion , but the other side, it also talk about caring, tender, gentle, and giving..
True Love
by Robert Penn Warren
In silence the heart raves. It utters words meaningless, that never had a meaning. I was ten, skinny, red-headed, freckled. In a big black Buick, driven by a big grown boy, with a necktie, she sat in front of the drugstore, sipping something through a straw. There is nothing like beauty. It stops your heart. It thickens your blood. It stops your breath. It makes you feel dirty. You need a hot bath.
I leaned against a telephone pole, and watched.I thought I would die if she saw me.
How could I exist in the same world with that brightness? Two years later she smiled at me. She named my name. I thought I would wake up dead.
Her grown brothers walked with the bent-knee swagger of horsemen. They were slick-faced. Told jokes in the barbershop. Did no work.
Their father was what is called a drunkard. Whatever he was he stayed on the third floor of the big white farmhouse under the maples for twenty-five years.He never came down. They brought everything up to him. I did not know what a mortgage was. His wife was a good, Christian woman, and prayed.
When the daughter got married, the old man came down wearing an old tail coat, the pleated shirt yellowing.The sons propped him. I saw the wedding. There were engraved invitations, it was so fashionable. I thought I would cry. I lay in bed that night and wondered if she would cry when something was done to her.
The mortgage was foreclosed. That last word was whispered.She never came back. The family sort of drifted off. Nobody wears shiny boots like that now.But I know she is beautiful forever, and lives in a beautiful house, far away.She called my name once. I didn't even know she knew it.
Here are opinions:
* Love differs from heart to heart, love can be good and can be bad. To love and be loved is the perefect ingredients to happiness but to love and not be loved will be a darkness in your soul. Being in love is like a drop of water after years of draught, it eases your souls agonies of life. Being in love is a feeling not all humans will experience. So if you have it cherish.......just love it..BIGSAL
* i think love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride; love's ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it keeps no accounts of wrong; it takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true; love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things. though the prophet's word may come to an end, tongues come to nothing, and knowledge have no more value, love has no end.
* Love has never been defined since man began, so we have to use our own hearts and minds to decide. Love isn't all about looking at a good looking woman/man and hearing fireworks go off all the time. That's usually physical attraction, but it's normal at the beginning of our relationship. Love is respect, wanting to help that person in any aspect of their lives; protect them from harm's way; knowing that each other will be there 100%; feeling safe with that person; proud of being with them; sharing your hopes and dreams together; and my favorite ... feeling like you can conquer the world together! Knowing you will be together no matter what and continue on until the day you pass away. Now that's love to me!
* The Meaning of Love and being in Love is and this is from my opinion: When two people care for each other so much that they would not let nothing or no one get in there way of being together. And they will go to the end of the world to be with each other and do anything for one another. But no one can explain Love. There is no explantion only what u would call Love.
* well im only 15 but from my opinion of love I just look at me and my boyfriend as a perfect example. Well sometimes we argue and fight but no matter what we always find some kind of way to make up. If you love some one then you trust them, you can count on them when you need them most. Fine things mean nothing but time means everything. You should be able to tell eachother everything. If you never argue then thats not love. And there really is no true definition of love because everyone feels different about the person they love.
* The person who said-- You love somebody if you care for them more than you care for yourself. You love somebody when you would rather make them happy then your self happy-- you were absolutely right. Love can be described by that. If your own wants and needs dont matter to you as long as that person is okay, than that is true love
* I believe that love can be described in more ways than one and there sure are different kinds of love you feel for someone but when you can't eat and can't sleep because all you think about is that special someone than you are definately in love. Ever sit on the couch thinking your going to relax and read a book or something and you look down and your on page 10 of the book but because your mind is thinking about the person you just can't seem to get your mind off of you have to go all the way back to page number one.....or you have a date with that special someone and when you glance at him/her for the first time that night your stomach knots with butterflies and you suddenly feel so sick because there's the man(woman) of your dreams standing in front of you....my defintion of love is when you can't wait to see that person again; when you get dropped off at home but run for the phone just so you can hear their voice once again; when you would give anything to be together just five more minutes; you trust them with all of your heart; your comfortable together and know you could talk about anyhting; you are there for each other no matter what good or bad; you stand beside them proudly with confidence and last but definately not least, sharing speacial moments that one day you know will make wonderful memories to look back on and share with the ones you love the most.
* True love is when one cares about someone else's well being as much as one cares about one's own. Making someone else happy is certainly important, and yet one's own happiness in addition to that and as a result of that is what genuinely is true. True love stands together in equality and balance to what is honest, true and caring and not only about romantic love. It is a kindness of heart, soul, and mind. True love can be definited and is also a given, known and reciprocated when two people "share" in it.
* To me love is putting up with the arguments with that person and arguing your family down for them. Love is always being there but I don't think when you love some one you should love them more than your self because that is totally unhealty.
* Love is a feeling, an emotion that cannot be explained. Either you feel it or you don't. We call it 'love' because there is no explanation for it. It is not a rational, predetermined action. When you can't rationalize that feeling then you call it love.
* Love has no meaning at all! It is the very essence of our being, It is Life itself.
* "Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserveres. Love never fails!"
* The meaning of love and being loved? I don't think anyone can explain it, love is not something that can be explained it is a feeling that each and everyone should feel at least once in their life (hopefully). Of course it can be expressed but as for explained well it is difficult as everyones love is different. Love is a feeling that only the 2 people involved can understand, and if you dont understand it yet then just wait. Don't try to find a meaning for something which you cant. Love is everywhere it is something to be found and then understand, not explained. There is no explaination that is anywhere near what loving someone and being loved by the same person, truly is.
I would also like to add a very precise addition to this area that's maybe not so closely associated to the term 'love': I read somewhere that "girls don't want to be the object of adventure only, but rather be part of a joint adventure that the two in a couple can share." So that's a lot like having the feeling of "conquering the world," from above. Maybe that could be called 'freedom' too, which is a highly treasurable feeling to have. Most girls seem to have some pretty good ideas of what they want and maybe more often than not also some ideals for the future. But I do have a theory that love lets many girls become very flexible and often able to adapt to a man who's able to lead. This way, some level of selfishness and target-mindedness can actually become good abilities for a man. I think many girls/ladies may have a life of serial-disappointment if- although they don't know of any alternative sometimes- being forced to attain a "survivor"- role, controlling everything in the lives of a couple, for instance with a man who can't take any initiative. So being kind, sacrficing oneself entirely for the good of another, makes oneself of little value to love.
* I work in a nursing home, where over the years i have seen some of the most touching displays of love. For example, I used to work with a little old lady about age 87 with advanced stage alzheimers. She couldn't speak but would still smile at you all day l. Her husband, who was of sound mind, would come every single day, rain or shine, to sit and walk around with her. The person she used to be is completely gone and yet he still is by her side every day. At the risk of sounding maudlin, if thats not true love than I dont know what is. I can only hope to be so lucky one day!
Sometimes whatever small intrigue gained in the begining turns into your reason "to be", one kiss breaks barriers. Smashing everything and anything you are, you loose yourself in that single moment forgetting where you are, who you are. For only one moment you feel more than you have ever felt, your infractions do not exist. Your doubts are gone...everything, but only one feeling resides in you head. That you have found perfection, bliss and eternity.
I agree, i should be so lucky one day.
* In My opinion Love is the great obession or passion for another sole being. The feeling that you cannot live without them, or you wouldnt imagine a world without them. They also fill you with joy. You even argue with this person, but always seem to get through. You look out for this person, and never let them in harms way. Once you feel that for another person, then you'll know the true meaning of love..
I myself have found this....
that love is the ultimatum between everything. love is what makes the world spin and what also can make your head spin. if you've never been in love than you don't know what i speak of, but that's what love is. when you're truly in love, your head spins, your hearts skips a beat and everything is perfect. when you're with the one you love, you feel like nothing bad can happen to you. when you're with the one you love, you're home. it's perfection. that's what love is to me.
♥
* == On a darkest night
looking to the Stars
I asked to the Hights: What love is? Where love is?
A sweet voice I heard
coming from the Sky: "Just look for it, you will find it..."
To the Stars I claimed: "Thousand times I've tried...:
Love there is not, illusion is just"
Then a radiant light
from the Heights flashed down
it brighted me up,
Love has been seeing by me: Love is an inner Force
emanated from hearts: it's a noble Virtue
given to us by God...
I kneelled down, of joy I have cried: and I thanked God for this Wonder Love...! ==
Being in love is Infatuation that someone experiences for another person after it becomes a sense of security which is often built by trust, comfortablity, and excitement.
When you think about the qualities found in a true "soul mate" relationship, what one word comes up most often on the top of your list?
Is it CHEMISTRY? Probably.
Just the mention of this term conjures up powerful feelings and images for anyone who has ever been in or seeking a love relationship. It is often described as a feeling that leaves you breathless, excited and weak in the knees. Palms sweat, the heart races and the body tingles with nervous anticipation.
It is believed by virtually everyone that true love cannot exist without chemistry. Therefore, the conclusion most would-be lovers come to is that if they experience these intense feelings towards someone, they have the basis for an ideal and lasting relationship.
Right? Maybe not. For this definition of chemistry is limited to one's physical response to another person. It lacks an entire dimension that resides in our values, beliefs, personalities and worldview.
In order to know you have the right connection with a potential (or existing) partner, it's important to have a basic knowledge of what real chemistry consists of, instead of embracing only the myths that surround it. This can be difficult to do. This intense, physical passion is the stuff that Oscar winning movies and best-selling books are made of. So, take a step back for a minute and see if you recognize yourself in the following.
Sarah is a thirty something, very attractive and successful, professional female. She has been in a relationship for over a year with a man who is unfaithful, disrespectful and incapable (unwilling) to make any commitment to her. Yet, when he makes late night "booty calls", forgets her birthday, or stands her up repeatedly - she remains available and willing, in spite of her general unhappiness and upset over their "relationship". Why? "I think I have mistaken great sex for love. I feel this intense chemistry and physical intimacy when we are having sex, even though he offers me nothing else. Over time, it has left me unhappy and feeling badly about myself."
John is an attractive, intelligent, 30 something male who owns his own successful business. He's dating a woman that he thinks he is in love with. He has knowledge that she has been out with other men. She cancels dates and is often critical and emotionally distant. She refuses to discuss commitment or taking the relationship to the next level. Yet, she turns to John for emotional, physical and financial help whenever she feels she needs it. Why does John continue to see her? "She's beautiful and the sex is great. We have such strong physical chemistry. It's almost like an addiction for me. My friends can't stand her and even I know she's not really a "keeper", but it's hard to walk away.
These vignettes are great examples of how physical chemistry can be mistaken for the real thing. The attraction on one level is strong, yet these are not relationships that have the right elements to grow into happy and satisfying partnerships.
So, what is missing?
Kahlil Gibran defines it as "spiritual affinity". It's the hidden element of chemistry. It's when two beings meet and connect on a deeper level. It can only be felt in the heart and soul. It's about friendship, respect, humor and the feelings of warmth and contentment that come when you are in his/her presence.
People often report finding one without the other. This is understandably a cause of great frustration and confusion about whom should we choose and why. In order to understand this better, it is helpful to know how and when each facet of chemistry occurs.
Physical attraction (or lust) generally begins during our first contact with someone. It can DEVELOP into something more over time, yet some pull is there from the beginning. The chemical that results from this attraction (and intensifies it) is phenyl ethylamine - or PEA. It is a naturally occurring substance in the brain. Essentially, it is a natural amphetamine. It stimulates us and increases both physical and emotional energy. The attraction causes us to produce more PEA, which results in those dizzying feelings associated with romantic love. Another substance that is released by PEA is dopamine. This chemical increases a desire to be physically close and intimately connected.
When these chemicals are being secreted in larger doses, they send signals from the brain to the other organs of the body. If you wonder why you or someone is attracted to the "wrong" person, it may be because you are high on the physical response to these substances, which overwhelm your ability to use your head and exercise "good judgment and common sense".
"Spiritual affinity" develops over time and repeated contact. When these feelings begin to emerge, the brain produces endorphins. These are more like morphine and result in an increased sense of calm that reduces anxiety and helps to build attachment. As relationships move into this phase they are characterized by more comfort, commitment and friendship.
Generally speaking, all "soul mate relationships" require at least some measure of each of these. The important thing to remember is that they come in stages, which is not to say that the physical attraction passes as one moves into a deeper connection. However, it changes. We cannot sustain those intense emotions as we travel down the road to commitment and a shared life. However, in healthy relationships those moments of intensity can and do occur for brief intervals at intermittent times.
Remember not to confuse great sex or deep friendship with romantic love. Instead, look for a measure of both of these in your feelings for another. For then you have the ingredients that lasting love is made from.
Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.
Let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS.
Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a legal marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage (according to Christianity); it is a God-given gift.
PRE-MARITAL SEX
Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
IDENTIFYING TRUE LOVE
We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:
We have to…
1. look at the Word of God
2. be completely honest with ourselves
3. understand the level of commitment that comes with true love
